These things happen when you get too emotional about your job

Written by: Georgina Bloomfield
Published on: 10 Jun 2016

Every job has its ups and downs. We face challenges every day that we sometimes take more seriously than they actually are. If small situations seem like the end of the world in your head, or if you’re struggling to sleep at night because you’re thinking about work too much, then you could be too emotionally invested in your job. Being emotionally invested in work can be a really good thing and should never be discouraged – but sometimes when it gets too much, it could be having the opposite effect on your career. Here are the signs that you’re too emotional with your job:

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You take your work home with you

This is both a good and a bad thing. Lots of people have a habit of checking the odd email out of working hours, and usually this is just fine. But when you end up working on major projects in your own time, it can signal that you’re going to experience work related burnout if you’re not careful. How often do you find yourself taking your work home with you after the day is done? It’s not just work that you’re working on either. If you’re thinking about work all the time then you’re taking it home with you. If you feel anxious at home when the thoughts about your job come up then it’s time to evaluate what’s making you so nervous. Do you take your work home with you because you feel like you haven’t been productive enough during the working day? Is your boss giving you a tight deadline that’s just impossible to meet? Do your colleagues do the same? If it’s not the norm to do this in your company then you need to stop immediately! Things can wait!

Relationships are suffering

Usually as a result of you taking work home with you or being too emotionally invested in your work – it means you have no room in your head for making time for people who matter, such as loved ones and friends. If your relationships with these people have been breaking down recently it could be a sign that your emotions have completely got their priorities wrong.

Your immediate response to a problem is to overreact

Everyone gets spurts of sudden rage every now and then; it’s uncontrollable sometimes. If something has gone suddenly wrong it’s instinct to find yourself frustrated (especially if you can’t control the situation). However, if you’re constantly being the loose cannon in the workplace because someone has upset you or you haven’t got your way, you need to re-evaluate your issues. Is this really the end of the world? Think of the last time you were this angry or frustrated. Did your emotions help you get out of the situation? Chances are the situation sorted itself out and your emotions did nothing but stress you and others around you out.

You won’t accept help from others

When you’re too emotionally invested in your job, you don’t want to have to accept help from other people. To you, this is seen as a weakness and as a sign of incompetence. You’re not incompetent – you just want to do a good job! The problem is you can’t let go of control. If it means the task gets done quicker and someone else is more suited to do it, then delegate. My tip for this particular point would be to keep an eye on your workload and what you’re actually responsible for. Have a word with your manager if you feel you need help.

You can’t sleep or function properly

Lots of people fall asleep thinking about what the next day is going to bring. It’s common to think about your priorities for the following workday. If you’re finding that you’re struggling to sleep because thoughts about work are invading your mind, try writing down your work related thoughts before going to sleep. They won’t go anywhere and hopefully they’ll be out of your head so you can go to sleep. Even if they’re ridiculous, write them down. You may find when you read them the next morning they seem quite trivial.

You can’t take criticism on the chin

Receiving negative feedback can be hard, especially if you’ve worked really hard on a project and the outcome isn’t what you wanted. Everyone gets critiqued in their careers – it’s what makes us good employees. However, if you constantly find yourself internalising feedback to the point where you can’t seem to get over it, you’re letting your emotions get in the way of the situation. Bear in mind that most of the time we’re given feedback to help us rather than hinder us. Use it to make your next project even better. Instead of feeling hurt or betrayed, put that energy into a new and exciting project.

Everyone gets emotional about their job from time to time. It means we care about our work, which makes us good for our jobs. If you can find the balance between your emotions and your work, you can be sure that your career will vastly improve!